WOMAN KNOW THYSELF!!!

uhhhmmm I feel a bit under the weather today so its really not gonna be a long epistle. I just didnt wana leave you guys hanging there without a word from me. So today is not gonna be about making out or having sex. I just wana share a real life story with you guys, hoping you learn from it.

I have this friend who i believe is the best hubby anyone can ask for. Physically, he has got it all and he is such an easy going person. He sends his family on trips abroad and spends time with the kids and his wife. He holds them in high esteem and always has something good to say about them to anyone that cares listen. Sometimes its actually annoying hearing him go on and on like there is nothing more to discuss or say. Infact he makes you go home and think if you aint showing enough love to your own family. I woke up to his call this morning. When i picked up to check the caller and it was him at that time of the day 5.20am, i knew something was wrong. He wants a divorce...... What!!!!!!!!!! I began to cast and bind oh! this is the devil at work. Why does the devil want to destroy this beauriful family. The sweet sleep left my eyes and i asked MR. X what is the problem. What has gone so wrong that you went from a beauriful family to wanting to be a divorcee? Then he started

All the while he painted a good picture of his family, that was what he wished for (imagine that?! and people that listen to him where busy quarelling with thier spouses over certain things he said his family does and also envying him). He takes his kids to the salon including the girl, makes sure they are looking good before they step out of the house, does the school runs, takes care of the home as in makes sure everywhere is clean. my question was did wifey travel? he said NO but because he dosent complain, she thinks he is ok with it or just tinks raising the kids and doing house chores is his hobby (LWKMD).

What does she actually do? Stay all day on phone and never misses any owanbe.

Mr X you dont just wake up and decide to be a divorce you have to bfix it. Thats what i said to him. Being a family am close to. I thought i should call wifey. I tell Mr X i will have to call him back he says i shouldnt bother calling her now cos she hung out late last nite with her friends and came in a lil tipsy. So i thought to myself she wont even see the kids this morning before they leave for school?

Fast foward to 9am I call her phone and tell her i wana come over after work to see her  but i want her to ponder on the thought of having a broken home. She was shocked and says it cant be her. My response was "ok till we see". She calls me at lunch hour and says she has been uncomfy with what i said and asks if Mr. X is cheating on her. (LOL) you can imagine what she thought of. So i decide to cure her curiosity and told her she hasnt been the wife her husband wished for. Shocked again she wants to know what the problem is. I asked her when was the last time she took her daughter to d salon and she says oh! Mr. X likes to do that. (LOL). I asked her again when was the last time you bought a broom and made sure your numerous house helps are using it effectively, she laughs again and says her hubby likes doing house chores because he is his mothers only son, grew up with his sisters around and learnt all that. Then she gets angry and asks that she hopes i didnt draw her husbands attention to all these. I laughed and told her her husband drew my own attention to it. It was the shocker of her life. 

Yes some men have Obsessive–compulsive personality disorder (OCPD). They have great concern for orderliness, perfectionism, excessive attention to details. But my dear do your part first.  Perform your wifely roles, execute them effectively. Let him now come in and start exhibiting his OCPD. I once went to see a friend and her hubby was doing some washing and cleaning while she was watching as soap. I asked her Nne warrisup? your hubby is busy and you are watching TV she casaully said oh! dont mind Emma he likes to do that. Even if he likes to do it, why not join him, you guys should do it together. That way you even bond more. You notice he likes house chores then you decide to turn him to the steward while you sit down there doing nothing or gisting him while he is at it. hmmm Odikwa egwu! I dont know where you girls are learning it from o! We shouldnt throw away all the old ways of our mothers o! in the name of what i dont know. 

Anyway back to Mr  X and his wife. I told her to fix it however she knows to. This is not a matter of please talk to him because i dont know what to say to him. Just go back to the kitchen and make food for him, take care of the children and less of the Owambe. Thank your stars he hasnt  started seeking for who will do it for him. That he is not complaining dosnt mean he is not taking note. Like i always say, GIVE YOURSELF BRAIN. But if you wont Kontinu! like PEJ said!!!

Abeg let me go rest  my head. It was a long epistle after all.. my head is banging...