MAN KNOW THYSELF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Sure, we love them, but let’s face it, when you live with someone day in day out for what feels like an eternity, the little quirks that were once endearing, or at least easy to ignore, can become somewhat irritating, exasperating, irksome, maddening, and grating. These husbands can be pretty annoying sometimes.

• Darling husband, it wont hurt if you listen to your wife  –  I suggest turning off that fifa game or hibernating your laptop or not even bringing work home. Face her and look at her.  Women talk face to face it makes us feel “emotionally connected”, not shoulder to shoulder.  Ideally, you would sit down with wifey at a certain time every day for about 15-30 minutes after dinner or after the children are in bed – and smile and hold out your arms or your hand and say, “Ok, Baby, tell me what’s on your heart today!” That makes her feel like you care and want to know her emotionally/spiritually.  To her, talking and feeling heard is intimacy.  We have a drive to connect emotionally similar to how many husbands have a drive to want to connect sexually.

• I heard a man say “if not for the prayers of his wife, where would he be” I like the fact that you appreciate your wives prayers but she is also asking God to make you pray with her. She wants you to understand that a family that prays together stays together. Women long for that spiritual intimacy and your leadership so deeply, it is a very strong drive for her.  If she is doing something that makes you feel disrespected – maybe you can gently, quietly and calmly ask her to change her approach.  But it means THE WORLD to her when you say, “Let’s pray together.”

• Husband please learn to compliment your wife:  Women are so verbal, and it seems like nothing at all to ask you to say, “You look beautiful/sexy/gorgeous” sometimes, once a month or once a week or something. Take note of when she is wearing a new hair and compliment. I know that you may just not be very verbal. But  your genuine words of affirmation about her beauty and sexiness are life giving to her. She likes your compliments.  A few ideas – “I love the way your eyes sparkle.”  “Your hair is so soft and sexy.”  “Your smile lights up the whole room!  I’m the luckiest guy in the world to get to be married to you!”  “That dress looks great on you!”  “I love looking at you.”  “I can’t wait to hold you in my arms – you are so beautiful!”  “I love it when you wear your hair /like that.”  “That color brings out your beautiful eyes.” Most of you actually notice when your secretary at work changes her hair or wears something really cute but refuse to take not at home.

• Oga when she asks you about something please, if you need more time to think you could say, ”Sweetheart, I need to think about that and process it for awhile.  Let’s talk about it tomorrow when am back from work.”  And then please follow up with her at that time wives could be much more understanding of this than when you just keep mute or say I ve heard you. That’s really annoying. She can as well take decisions without involving you but because she loves and respects you, she feels you in on necessary info. Please answer nicely and don’t be an ass wipe.

• Please don’t reject her sexually. Give it to her when she needs it. That is what you signed. Where do you want her to get it from. Oga comot the tin n wipe her well with it ejoor! Refusing her HURTS VERY, VERY, VERY deeply.  If you are having medical issues – maybe you could at least verbalize your desire for her and still cuddle and kiss with her so that she knows you still desire her, and then see the doctor as soon as you can and resume work. That one na one of your job responsibilities since you took up the husband occupation. Madam if he no gree grab the tin.  Being sexually rejected by our spouse can be extremely painful, as I am sure many husbands are well aware.

• Hubby looking at porn, lusting after other women, flirting with other women  is really annoying and disrespectful.  Most women are not visual like men are and it is hard for a woman  to identify with visual temptation because that is usually just not in her thinking processes at all. Sometimes she may  way overreact because she don’t understand how different men are from women.  I wish that wives could be more empathetic about what men go through visually in our culture and be a safe place to talk about struggles and pray with their husbands.  Some wives aren’t there yet.  They need reassurance from you about your heart and attraction for them.  Porn in particular can be quite devastating to wives.  I pray that God might give resources and strength to men who are caught in pornography addiction and that He might give them wisdom how to best help their wives heal.  If a husband flirts with other women, it is very disrespectful to your marriage, please save all the flirting for her! Lets turn the tables. If you catch your wife watching porn or often flirting or making eye contacts with other men, how will you feel? That’s exactly how she feels. At least while she is with you focus all attention on her and don’t go turning your head while driving and making it so obvious that you are staring at some other lady.

Signing Out

My head is  banging!!!!

Sugar (Sweet as hell)