Overly Long Sessions

 

Take your pick from any memorable intense sex scene in a movie; Jason’s Lyric, Jungle Fever, and Unfaithful have a few of my favorites. If it were up to the scenes in these movies, they would have us all thinking that good sex includes trying all of the Kama Sutra positions and going at it for hours upon hours (possibly in a field of grass). Movies rarely account for those moments when you almost kill yourself by tripping out of your own underwear, or when the wet spot in the bed becomes kind of repulsive afterwards. But there’s one thing that annoys me the most that they won’t admit: Anything more than 20 minutes starts to get more tiring than fun. I know I am not the only one who has been caught trying to watch “Game of thrones”over my partner’s shoulder because he wore out his welcome ten minutes earlier.

We are so used to women running around talking about they don’t want a “one-minute man” that we never really made it clear that having sex for hours at a time is exhausting and can get downright uncomfortable if you’re distracted enough.  It could be because of men who are just plain bad in bed, social networking forcing our attention spans to become shorter and shorter, or unrealistic expectations women have. But the truth is, sometimes short and sweet isn’t so bad and you just want the guy to wrap it up in more ways than one.

So what is the ideal duration for a single session? According to a survey I did recently which is part of what birthed this blog, most couples were completely satisfied with anything between seven and 13 minutes when it came to a single encounter.

When it comes to pleasure, it’s all about time management, abeg o!  The best encounters are a balance of 4play, passion, skill, intensity and an occasional head butt or “tooth toast” (you know, when you go to kiss and your teeth end up meeting before your lips do) just to break the tension.  Great sex doesn’t have to be epic every time or worthy of your friends rating. And if there’s one class that should be a piece of cake in life, it’s sex.

Not only do you run the risk for your mind thinking of what to make for dinner or who is going for school runs or the gist your gbegborun friend wants to give, you can do some physical damage as well.  When a woman fails to get aroused, there’s a good chance that her lady parts will not produce enough lubrication, meaning that sex can become very painful very fast when partners begin to chafe in areas that they never thought they could. It’s nothing a little KY Jelly can’t fix, but what’s the point of going at it for hours at a time if you’re not enjoying yourself, or worse yet, if you’re uncomfortable? For men, about five percent of the population may experience delayed climax.  Sometimes this can be caused by having one bottle of Origin or tots of shekpe, but when it happens on a regular basis, it could be a legitimate cause for concern Oga go check yourself before you turn her to mortar with your pounding. Medications, anxiety, or previous sexual activity can all contribute to delayed climax.  Keep your expectations realistic. DH, if your goal is to give your woman the big “O,” keep in mind that most women don’t achieve it solely through vaginal penetration. Suck on it and work those fingers!

Sex should be about pleasure and intimacy, not proving a point about who can last the longest or your man bragging about “beating” anything up. Rough sex is one thing, but our parts were not meant to be pulverized, ladies.  Leave the marathons and just have fun. Nobody go give you trophy o!

Now my problem is this. Most ladies keep faking the moans when they are no longer feeling it just to make the guy feel good. My dear stop am o! na your body go tell you. When you do this, the guy thinks you are enjoying it n pounds you even harder. Please o! Communication is key. Tell him is beginning to hurt you. Some men condition their mind to last long but the moment you tell them to cum, they do. When the Vjayjay is dry, don’t these guys even hurt their thingy *winks*?

Why kill yourselves on one sessison when there is gonna be lots more. Give yourself brain o!

A word is enough for the wise. I don talk finish!

Good afternoon!